Definitely an interesting letter to receive, I think.

On eHarmony, I sent a letter to the guy I've been conversing with. It's been all April we've been sending emails back and forth, and we've talked about meeting, though he hasn't confirmed a date for that - we're waiting til after Pesach, since I won't be in town. I've started to wonder when will be the right time to tell him that I'm also seeing someone else, not just in the dating-to-find-someone paradigm, but dating-with-no-intention-of-stopping way. I haven't had to have that talk with anyone yet. Here's how I did it:

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Before we meet, since it seems like we will, I wanted to let you know that I'm polyamorous. What that means, to you and me right now, is that I'm dating a guy I won't marry for various reasons, but I'm still looking for the person I will. I believe that there's room in my heart for many loves, and I'm looking for the one I can share my life with. I'd like to meet you and get to know you better, but I'll still be seeing him.

I hope this doesn't preclude you from getting to know me better, but since I think we're both looking for long-term potential here, and this is a big deal for many people, I should let you know about it. Please let me know what you think about this and how it might affect things between us.

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