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Take the long way home.
Sep. 6th, 2006 09:27 amI've bought my one-way ticket from parents to here: the way back from Rosh Hashanah weekend in Florida. The plan was for my sister and her fam and me to drive down on Thursday (possibly Wednesday night) so we can get there with some time to relax before the holiday starts Friday evening. However, it turns out my sister will lose about $360 if she doesn't work on Thursday, so she needs to fly down, which will cost money, but not as much as she earns on Thursdays. This means that it's going to be me, my bro-in-law, and the girls, driving down to Florida in the van.
I love my neices. I do not love my bro-in-law. I only like my bro-in-law in a very superficial way. He does not treat me badly, because we're not emotionally invested in each other, save that we're related. I get along with him just fine. I've even kissed him on the cheek as I've left his house the last few times. However, deep down, I dislike him as a person and despise how he's acted towards my sister, and how he's chosen to do things in the last... year or two. I'm not letting my sister off the hook for her actions and how they've affected her relationship with him, I'm just saying: how he's chosen to be, in certain situations, makes me upset, and the choices he continues to make in his behaviour makes me cringe or snarl.
I think that the drive will be perfectly fine, because I'm not about to act anything but appropriately. I do not pick fights with him, I treat him very well. Also, the girls are pretty entertaining and are generally fine on car trips, even of this length. There will be music, I'll bring a book or knitting with me, maybe both, I'll drive some of it, and it'll be fine. I'm just a bit sad that my sister won't be there with me. I'm told that there's a limit to how nice I have to be to those I don't like. I understand that. However, there are mitigating circumstances to this situation: he might not always be my sister's husband, that's just a legal contract, but he will always be the father of my nieces, and that makes a big difference to me.
As for the drive, I could choose to buy myself another one-way ticket down, instead of getting in the car, but I've made a plan, and even though the details have changed outside of my control, I'd still like to stick with it.
I love my neices. I do not love my bro-in-law. I only like my bro-in-law in a very superficial way. He does not treat me badly, because we're not emotionally invested in each other, save that we're related. I get along with him just fine. I've even kissed him on the cheek as I've left his house the last few times. However, deep down, I dislike him as a person and despise how he's acted towards my sister, and how he's chosen to do things in the last... year or two. I'm not letting my sister off the hook for her actions and how they've affected her relationship with him, I'm just saying: how he's chosen to be, in certain situations, makes me upset, and the choices he continues to make in his behaviour makes me cringe or snarl.
I think that the drive will be perfectly fine, because I'm not about to act anything but appropriately. I do not pick fights with him, I treat him very well. Also, the girls are pretty entertaining and are generally fine on car trips, even of this length. There will be music, I'll bring a book or knitting with me, maybe both, I'll drive some of it, and it'll be fine. I'm just a bit sad that my sister won't be there with me. I'm told that there's a limit to how nice I have to be to those I don't like. I understand that. However, there are mitigating circumstances to this situation: he might not always be my sister's husband, that's just a legal contract, but he will always be the father of my nieces, and that makes a big difference to me.
As for the drive, I could choose to buy myself another one-way ticket down, instead of getting in the car, but I've made a plan, and even though the details have changed outside of my control, I'd still like to stick with it.
